Why Can’t Girls Just Play NICE??!!

21 Aug

The famous females from "Dynasty" in an everyday cat fight.

For those of you who have read my blog on a regular basis, you will know how strongly I feel about men and their complete inability to do most things better than women.

Except for one thing.

Men are better at friendships with men than women are with other women.

Men don’t talk behind each others backs and there isn’t these over thought plots to ruin another guy’s reputation just because he wore the same color as you to a party.

There isn’t any jealousy between boys.  One gentlemen’s success is the opportunity for that successful guy to pay for happy hours for his less successful posse.  It’s just as simple as that.

Females, on the other hand, we are just evil to each other.  For some reason females completely enjoy going for the jugular and I can’t really understand why.

Since When Does Every Group Need A Regina George?

Every group of girls has a leader

I’m really not sure where it is written, but apparently in each clique there’s a Regina George.  For anyone that is not familiar with the movie “Mean Girls”, Regina was a high school girl who was the head of a popular clique known as The Plastics. Everyone wanted to be her friend DESPITE the fact that no one really liked her because she was so mean.  She was the one who made the plans, and dictated what was cool and basically called the shots of who was in the clique and who wasn’t.

Until recently, I really didn’t realize how much of my life mirrored this movie.  I am twenty-six and feel like I’m living in this awful teen movie that will not end, even though my friendship with my very own Regina George is over.

Just like romantic relationships, things start to fall apart gradually.  It starts off small like, “You can’t where blue because I’m wearing blue and we aren’t twins.”

Once, it’s annoying but it can be overlooked.  Twice, you grit your teeth and smile.  By eight hundred twenty-five, all you want to do is hang yourself.

Next comes the not so subtle attack of your personal character.

I can COMPLETELY understand if people want to snicker at my groupie activities.  I really don’t care what their opinions are since I know I’m not doing anything to be ashamed of.

With that said, as my friend, you shouldn’t constantly berate me for it. Especially since you do the exact same thing on a WHOLE other plain.  I do what I do for fun and don’t hurt anyone doing it.  Others use people on a daily basis and get away with it just for the sake of the end result.

Also, I get being honest but there comes a point where honesty is just an excuse to be mean.

Finally comes the point where you opinions about certain things have to be kept quiet because any difference in opinions from Regina’s will lead to an automatic removal from The Plastics.

If you don’t think its fair that you bend over backward to do a,b,c and d yet they can’t even do a for you; tough.  Not Regina’s problem.

The Aftermath of The Removal of the Clique

Or as I like to call it the; “Getting back to high school days”

When my parents got divorced and when my stepfather moved out, there really wasn’t much of a custody battle.  It was more like an automatic “Mom gets the kids” deal.

However, I do know that in some break ups there is a great deal of mud-slinging that goes on and the kids are the ones in the middle.  It is a constant tug of war and the kid feels like they have to choose which parent they love more.

I suppose that is the way it is when two former GAL pals call it quits because this is just ridiculous.

Going on Facebook and making comments about the other person to play mind games with them…

Suddenly being interested in the lives of your friends that you had NO interest in previously…

It’s boring and as the person who is trying to just move on, it makes Regina George seem kind of pathetic.

Also, it isn’t cool to suddenly be involved in mutual friends lives to shut a person out.

How can you really hang out with someone when three months ago you called them stuck up for not helping you on your groupie endeavors?

Or plan a trip with people who you were ready to kick off it because “she has to strikes against her and on the third I’m done”

What about defending a friend so fiercely over something that wasnt said, yet on MANY occasion the topic of conversation was that SAME friends lousy taste in men.

The list goes ON and ON and…oh yes…ON!

Amicable Break Ups

From FAQ.ORG

Are there such things as an amicable break up?  Can’t a friendship between girls be respectful?  If one person in the scenario is moving on and fine with the ending of the friendship, why does the other INSIST on starting a war?

Or maybe females just have a natural way of being mean to each other?

It’s really funny to me that people talk SO MUCH TRASH about being a groupie and having your groupie sisters.  Yet, I’ve never had this bad of time with a groupie sister.

It is really sad because I don’t get how mean you can be to someone who you were so close with at one point.  It makes a person question all those years of friendship.

One thing is for certain…

I’d rather be the girl who is completely real than be a Regina George.  I never really liked being the bitch anyway….

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2 Responses to “Why Can’t Girls Just Play NICE??!!”

  1. Lauren September 22, 2010 at 6:03 pm #

    That Regina sounds like such a horrid person! And who would be stupid enough to follow her around like a puppy? Those girls sound just awful, especially Regina. I would confront her if i were you.

  2. Holly October 10, 2010 at 9:03 pm #

    =o) I need not say more

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